Don’t kick them when they’re down…

There, but for the grace of God, go I….John Bradford quoted this and it is my favorite saying. I don’t label myself as religious….religion sends people to Hell. I am a blood bought, born again, sinner saved by His grace. Period. There is nothing good in me at all, but Him. God loves the sinner, not the sin, but it’s His place to judge, not ours. Christians all have different convictions and vices.

It really angers me and makes me feel (wrongly but the flesh is strong) judgmental toward pious people who claim to be Christians and all they do is bash other people and run them down. So often, I have to bite my tongue to not say something about their sins from past or present… I have my opinions of certain things and people as well, and I try to just keep quite if someone is saying something, I may even agree with, but it’s not my place to judge them.

I have sinned so many times, and guess what?? I still do!! And I bet, if we are all honest, can say the same thing.

For people who do this kind of behavior, really turns people away from wanting to know God, and I can see why. I wouldn’t want to be associated with people who talk about everyone, then invite them to church…what kind of message does that send? One who gossips to you, will gossip about you.

Think before you speak, that person you’re getting ready to run down very easily could have been you!!


Yesterday, we got the privilege to go out and vote. There have been so many men and women who have died fighting for our freedom to do just that. We live in a country where we can go to any church we want to, work where we want, and pretty much do whatever we want…for now.

I didn’t vote…I never have….and I feel very convicted over this.

I have never been a political person, I don’t know enough about the government system and politics, and had really never given it much thought. The last few years though, with all the things I see in healthcare, in the justice system, and in this country with all of the different “movements” going on, I’m starting to take an interest.

I grumble a lot on this blog over a variety of things, and while I still feel like most all politicians are liars, something has got to change…and I do feel some of that change has to come from our leaders.

I’m going to start PRAYERFULLY investigating political things and people, so the next time we have an election, I will be ready and can confidently walk in and cast mine. I strongly feel America was founded on Christian principals and it needs to turn back that way.

So many people are trying to boot God out because they don’t want to be accountable to Him, but guess what…they will be anyway, whether they believe it or not.

A letter…

Dear Little Family,

You don’t know me, and I promise I’m not some weird stalker lady, but I couldn’t help but watch you last night. As we sat in the super crowded local Mexican restaurant with my husbands family, I was at the table in the center of the room and you were in the booth directly across from me. So it’s almost like I had to watch. I usually only have negative things to say about kids and the parents that don’t discipline them, but you are different.

I noticed the baby carrier at the end on the table sitting in the upside down high chair right as I sat down, because I always notice babies. But then I noticed the three other little blonde headed children sitting there too. Dad had a boy and a girl sitting on his side and Mom had, what I’m guessing to be the oldest boy who is maybe six or seven. As I sat down and situated into my seat and saw this across from me, I have to say my initial thought was, “great, brats, here goes dinner…” As I sat there a few minutes and mentally prepared myself to get my sparse amount of patience out, I realized I had not heard a peep from your table.

So, I watched, and listened. You two parents were talking to each other and the kids, and the kids were actually sitting there eating. Amazing. I don’t know if this was a rare moment for your family, but it seemed like normalcy to you. The fact that you are a very young couple with four children, eating out in a public restaurant, and your kids weren’t throwing fits or food, really touched my heart. It’s rare now. You two worked as a team as Dad took the boys to the bathroom, then the little girl, while mama finished her meal. That’s a good daddy!

Towards the end of the meal, the baby must have woken up and Dad got her out of the seat. The other three did get a little antsy as children do, because they are kids and they are supposed to, but they were still not screaming or being terrors. I didn’t hear Mom or Dad have to raise their voice to calm them down. I am so impressed, I just can’t say it enough!

So what I really want to say is this, I know you’re exhausted…you have to be with raising four children…but you’re doing a fabulous job! I hope you have a beautiful joy filled life for your efforts and thanks for letting me see a glimpse of good parenting, it does still exist!

Thank you!


It’s been a while since I had a good vent on here so buckle up, here goes.

I think it is a despicable shame the way this country’s elderly have to live. Most of these people have worked hard all their life and now are having to eek by on $800 to $900 a month and maybe can get $20 in food stamps. Have you ever tried to get groceries, medicine, pay for water, power, and rent and gas for the car on that little bit of income? Ridiculous. It makes me so sad and then to see the flip side and a lot of the young able bodied people living high on the hog because they have learned to abuse the system. Just pisses me right off!! I don’t know what needs to happen, but something needs to soon.

Infertility sucks. I have gotten to the point where I am at peace if we don’t get pregnant. We have a wonderful, fun filled, busy life that I love so much, but I would still love to have another child, and love for Robert to be able to have that experience. He’s so great with all kids and would be the most amazing fun daddy, it makes me sad still when I think about him missing out on that. Then the flip side of that , watch the news any given day to see the trash that get to have kids and they hurt them or won’t take care of them. I’d like to have about an hour with these child molesters and abusers…wouldn’t need a jail cell for them after that, but a hospital room…or not.

One more thing that is probably my biggest gripe…drugs. I hate drugs. I hate doctors that throw a narcotic at every person that sits on their table. They are one of the reasons for the change in the drug scheduling with hydrocodone. How about telling patients to try some ibuprofen first for a headache….I’m just sayin. It used to drive me nuts when I worked on mother baby and we had cookie cutter orders for every patient and they all had Percocet ordered for pain. I’m sorry but if you had a normal delivery with minimal tearing…you should not need Percocet, you need to get your hind end up and walk to increase some blood flow, not take a pill that’s going to constipate you like crazy in two days, then you really will be hurting.

There is such a lack of common sense in this world, it’s really scary to me how people think (or don’t). We are all so desensitized by the media, we are unable to be shocked by the crazy bad things happening. We just all go along in our narcissistic bubble (I’m guilty too) and never think about things in a deeper way. There was a bad wreck yesterday on 52 and people died…DIED…do we really stop to think about the impact that death has on people’s lives. Those peoples families are waking up today, if they’ve even slept, to a completely different world without their loved one.

I just have to say, in closing, God help us, we need it.

Sorry for the scattered rant, thanks for reading!!

Random update

I really had intentions of writing again regularly, but….life happened.

Let’s see, Colby started back into regular school and is doing well and liking it. Not as much as he did at first because the newness has wore off and it is a lot of work, but it is challenging and he’s adjusted well.

I am getting excited for out cruise coming up the end of the month, and Colby’s trip to DC as well the day after I get back from cruising. I am trying not to stress out too much…not working sometimes, I’m a nervous mama.

We are trying a last ditch effort to get pregnant, it involves abstaining for fourteen days…I’m not sure if we will be able to do this one lol. What is it about wanting something worse when your not supposed to have it….oh well, we’ll see.

I have been doing pictures pretty often and have more coming up, I love my hobby, but in doing more I have become more critical and I’m trying not to be. I just know that I don’t like MY pictures over edited and like for skin to look like skin and peoples own perception of their “imperfections” are a part of them and makes them unique. I will edit out a bump or something like that, but I don’t airbrush the snot out of them. I like natural.

That’s about all I have to say for now, thanks for stopping by, have a great day!!

The latest

I had forgotten, for a bit how therapeutic it is for me to blog. I get busy with everything else in life and forget to stop and write it down. Speaking of busy, here’s what all is going on in our life.

Bowling! That is our newest and most time consuming hobby, we love it! It is something we can do together, that’s not out in the heat like golf, and we have fun. We have met some truly awesome people and really enjoy their company.

Work…Since March I have been kind of stressed about work due to being switched to a different team…I didn’t want to be, but it is finally looking up now. I am thinking about applying for a supervisor job, and I really think I would do good at it just for the simple fact that I am resourceful and available.

Pure Romance…I have had a few parties now, and really enjoy teaching women! That has been the two biggest compliments from almost every woman I talk to, they had fun and they learned something. That was my whole goal with starting this. It’s kind of hard in the summer to do parties, everyone is busy and I totally understand that. I am thinking it’s going to be a busy fall for me though and I am excited!

Colby…he has turned into the most wonderful teenager, his voice is so deep now and he probably needs to shave soon. He is a head taller than me too…I didn’t think growing up would happen so fast, but it has and it’s bittersweet. He is excited about getting back into public school and all of the classes he is going to take. He is so smart, I’m not sure where he got that from lol!!

Robert…his job at Fedex is so great now since he has a route closer to home. He gets home almost everyday by three o’clock. He loves it and so do I. As far as the baby making process, we have kind of just let it go. We are both ok with it if it happens and if not, then we will just keep going wide open with bowling, golfing, travel, work, and whatever else we can do that doesn’t require packing up everything to take a baby along too. We have peace about it.

So that is a little run down in case you were wondering. I have been working a lot of weekends lately and I am really excited about being off tomorrow and getting to go to my church. My best friend and I went to an old pastor of ours church last Sunday and it was great, but I miss my church. I haven’t been in about six or seven weeks now. I hope you all have a great day!!

Common courtesy

It’s what I believe this whole society lacks anymore. You see it on the roads, in stores, in movie theaters, and even in churches. Everyone is doing what they want to do no matter how it affects anyone else. Here are a couple of examples…

I was in Walmart (unfortunately) a few days ago, there was a log jam of people in the main aisle behind the registers. When we finally got going through, come to find out the cause was two women standing there talking, and a little girl about two or three pushing a plastic buggy out in the middle of the mob. The mother was oblivious to her daughters behavior, because she was in the way too…. I have stopped to talk to people before out in public, but I try to have enough respect for others to get out of their way.

Then another thing that happens in Walmart that proves my theory, is if you are standing in an aisle looking for a product you want and someone comes right up in front of you without so much as an kiss my butt or excuse me. I am known for my lack of patience, but I do have enough to wait for someone to move or say excuse me and quickly grab what I need and move on, not get in their space and take up five minutes for what I need.

This increasingly growing epidemic goes back to children. As parents we are raising kids to be adults. A child’s personality is developed by the time they are three years old. That’s when we are to be molding them into the kind of people that others don’t dread seeing come around. It’s not all about them, but so many parents now a days are afraid to make their kid mad at them. Parenting isn’t for the lazy, it takes lots of work to RAISE kids. Mine isn’t perfect, he gets in trouble once in a while, but he is respectful at all times and people enjoy being around him.

I really could rant on and on over this topic, but what good would it do? I will just keep trying to exercise common courtesy to my fellow humans along this ride with me, and work on my patience as well. (But it does drive me nuts lol!!!). Y’all have a great blessed day and try not to be oblivious to others today!