Men, take notes…

it gets said around my house a lot…I may not know what I want, but I want it right now. Women, we are very complex creatures, to say the least. Men can’t figure us out sometimes and understand how to make us happy, because we don’t even know ourselves at times.  I do have a few pointers that may can help…

Work hard. No, we don’t want you to be rich and gone all the time, but we want to know you do your best to provide as much as you can.  Money isn’t everything, but it makes life much easier when you can pay the bills on time every month and have some left over. 

Help around the house (and for extra brownie points, do it without being asked to), you can see the trash over flowing or the basket of towels that need to be folded. I promise, it won’t hurt and it may even help you get some attention later on if she doesn’t have 50,000 things to do. 

The old saying goes, man works from sun to sun, a woman’s work is never done…how true is that!!  Men, appreciate your woman…a lot!!!  Do you ever stop to think just exactly what it is she does for the family?  Take a moment, we’ll wait……

Now, aren’t you tired just thinking about that, now, throw in if she works a job outside the home as well (or two or three of them). Yeah, it wouldn’t hurt for you to stop and get some flowers or write her a note (best option!) to let her know just how much you appreciate her. 

Make her feel beautiful…women are soooooo hard on ourselves in every way. We need for you to come up to us while we are in our yoga pants and holey tee shirts with the bleach spots and stains on it and wrap your arms around our waist and tell us how gorgeous we are. (You better mean it though, or we will not be pleased).  We need to know you think we are amazing, even if we don’t think so. 

Connect with us. Everyday. Take the time to ask about our day, and then really listen to us, even if it is a gripe session that you’ve heard 1000 times. We need to vent at times, and don’t need you to do anything about it but listen, unless we ask for your help with a problem. Women, we need to return this as well, everyone wants to be heard. 

Don’t just expect sex. That old saying I spoke of earlier…that ties into this. If a women has the 57 others things that need to be done going through her head…guess what always will take a back seat… Help out with those things and then reap the rewards of your labor. Also, warm her up, you may be ready at the change of the wind, but women don’t work that way most of the time. 

This is a short list (really, it is lol), but it’s a good start to getting some insight into the female brain. It’s hard work, but if you make her happy, she will make you happier than you ever imagined. I am so thankful I have a good man who has learned so much in the last five years, I’m sure he could write a novel though about all of his frustration with putting up with me, he really deserves a medal!! 

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